Does conflict feel like it’s pulling you apart?

Discover a simple but powerful way to spot and stop toxic patterns before they cause more damage.

Download your FREE Four Horsemen Check-In Guide and learn how to replace criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling with healthy connection.

Conflict doesn’t destroy relationships —

the way we handle it does.

The Gottman Institute calls criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” because, if left unchecked, they erode trust and intimacy over time.

But here’s the good news: each of these patterns has an antidote. When you spot them and shift your approach, conflict can actually bring you closer instead of pushing you apart.

That’s what this free guide helps you start doing today.

What You’ll Get in the Free Guide

  • A simple self questionnaire to help you recognize which Horsemen show up most in your relationship.

  • Practical antidotes you can start practicing immediately.

Want to go deeper?

The Four Horsemen are just one piece of a bigger picture.

Inside my 6-module self-paced course, Healing From Betrayal: Rebuilding Trust, Restoring Love, you and your partner will learn how to:

Recognize your conflict style and how it shapes your reactions.

Replace toxic patterns with compassion, clarity, and connection.

Use gentle start-ups and “I” statements to lower defensiveness.

Manage emotional flooding and practice self-soothing techniques.

Make and accept repair attempts that turn tension into trust.

Solve solvable problems — and gracefully navigate the perpetual ones.

Inside the course, you'll learn to:

1

Understand Your Conflict Style

2

Spot the Four Horsemen in Action

3

Use Gentle Start-Ups & “I” Statements

4

Manage Flooding & Self-Soothing

5

Make and Accept Repair Attempts

6

Solve the Solvable & Accepting the Perpetual

If you’re not ready for the full course yet, no worries — just start with the free guide. Small steps matter.

Client Reviews

Tamara Varela

Simon has been an incredible support for both me and my partner during a very challenging time in our relationship. From the very first session, his caring and empathetic nature made us feel safe, heard, and truly understood. He creates a space where we can be honest and vulnerable without fear of judgment.

Simon has a remarkable ability to guide conversations in a way that helps us understand each other better, communicate more clearly, and work through difficult emotions constructively. I genuinely believe that he is helping us rebuild and strengthen the foundations of our relationship. In many ways, I feel that he is helping to save our family.

His warmth, professionalism, and insight make a world of difference. I couldn’t recommend Simon more highly to any couple in need of support. We’re deeply grateful to have him walking alongside us on this journey.

Vicki Lauren

Simon has been truly invaluable in helping us grow and strengthen our relationship. With compassion, insight, and a calm, supportive approach, he guides us through challenges and helps us build better communication and a deeper understanding of each other. We’re so grateful for the progress we’re making with his support and highly recommend him to any couple looking to grow together.

Teresa Carbone

I recently completed a Mental Health First Aid course run by Simon. It was very beneficial, increasing my knowledge in all things Mental Health and strategies to implement. Simon was an amazing trainer, easy to follow and kept the course running at pace that was manageable for all involved. Highly, highly recommend this course and Simon as the trainer.

Christine El-Khoury

Simon is a compassionate, knowledgeable and experienced therapist. I was drawn to him initially because of his training in the Gottman method which we’ve found very helpful in addressing some unhelpful communication patterns that had formed over many years. He put us at ease with the process from session one and checked in regularly to see how we were progressing. I would happily recommend Simon to anyone (and everyone) in need of support to keep their relationship humming.

Jacqueline Gallagher

Simon helped us navigate a challenging time in an empathetic and supportive manner. With a focus on communication, there have been notable improvements.

Conflict doesn’t have to feel like a battlefield.
With the right tools, it can become a bridge to deeper understanding and connection.

Start today with your free Four Horsemen Check-In Guide.